Why are some fathers overly strict?  Many because they are trying to protect their children from an increasingly Philistine culture—and smothering rules seem the best way to accomplish that.  Others are simply controlling personalities who use rules, money, friendship, or clout to rule their children’s lives. The Bible, read through their controlling grid, becomes a license to dominate.  Still others wrongly understand their faith in terms of Law rather than grace.  Some men are overly strict because they are concerned about what others will think. “What will they think if my child goes to this place . . . or wears this clothing . . . or is heard listening to that music?” Not a few preacher’s kids have been catapulted into rebellion because their fathers squeezed their lives to fit their parishioners’ expectations. What a massive sin against one’s children!
–R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man (Wheaton: Crossway, 1991), 48–49.
(HT: Zach Nielsen)