A few days ago I had a little discussion with my oldest daughter about being a good listener. I told her that listening must start with LOOKING right at me. That's when I know I have your attention. That's when I know you care. Sadly, I'm not always the best example. Sometimes I come home from work and Jaime starts talking to me and I've got my nose in the paper saying something like, "Uh-huh, that's great, Jaime." When I do this, Jaime gets irritated because I've made the paper more important than she is. But Jesus was different. He looked at people. Paul Miller, from his lesser-known book, Love Walked Among Us, says:
As I studied how Jesus loved, I was surprised by the number of times that Jesus looked at people. Altogether the Gospels mention Jesus looking at people about forty times. I was particularly struck by how often his compassion for people was preceded by his looking (see Mat. 9:6, Mark 10:21, John 19:26-27).
So how do we become more like Jesus? Ironically, Miller continues,
If we know we are loved -- that someone is looking at us -- then we can give love; then we can look at others.