Provoking Your Kids with Perfectionism & Passivism

Dave Bruskas shares two paths he is prone to walk towards in provoking his four girls:


I desperately want my girls to become mature Christian women. I want them to be molded into women who think, feel, act, and speak like Jesus.

Yet I provoke my girls to discouragement when I expect them to be perfect now, in their own strength, by doing more or trying harder.


The overcorrection to perfectionism is passivism. Passivism has the fatalistic attitude, “Because Jesus must change my child’s heart, there is nothing I can do but pray and watch and hope for the best.” This error completely ignores the charge to dads regarding their children in Ephesians 6:4,“Bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”

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