The Parenting Journey

If you're like me, you started your parenting journey wanting to do everything right.  You felt the pressure to effectively raise your kids and you looked around to see how you were doing compared to others.  You wanted to make sure your kids were obeying you right away, all the way, with a happy heart (that was the phrase we used!).  Consequently, you became a controlling parent who stressed over every little thing.  With more kids came more stress--but thankfully more grace to understand that you're not in control. I'm a father of three and it's funny how much my parenting has changed from kid #1 to kid #3.  Can you relate?  I'm learning to let go and not obsess over the things that don't really matter.  I'm learning to not care about what others think.  I'm learning to not fear that I will fail as a parent.  I'm learning to let go of the reins and lighten up!  But it's not just time and experience that has taught me things, more importantly, it's understanding the gospel at a deeper level.  I believe parenting is one of the biggest training grounds (along with marriage) for teaching us the grace of God in the gospel.  Where else are my fears and failures exposed?  Where else do I encounter my desire to be king, in control of my world?  And where else do I feel God's love and mercy so deep?  And where else do I experience his good and secure rule over my own heart?  What a journey ... what a Savior.

  • Read a similar post I wrote called, "The Case Against Over-Parenting"
  • Read the book, "Grace-Based Parenting" by Tim Kimmel