Dr. Larry Richards gives a needed exhortation regarding discipleship:
Although discipleship includes materials and methods it is a process that is geared to the individual needs of the people involved, in order to lead them to maturity, as stated clearly in Colossians 1:28,29: "We proclaim him, admonishing and teaching everyone with all wisdom, so that we may present everyone perfect in Christ. To this end I labour, struggling with all his energy, which so powerfully works in me." Paul poured all his energy into one process: working with God to bring people to maturity. This involves time and personal involvement. There is no such thing as instant discipleship. Without spending time, there will be no discipleship as it involves getting involved in the life of the person - the totality of their life, not just their church life but their home and personal life. People cannot be discipled from a distance.
I agree. It is our life that really matters in our pursuit of making disciples because making disciples is investing your life into others. That's why disciple-making happens best in the context of close community. It happens best when we live out what we believe, and we are in people's lives so they can learn from our lives.
As 1 Thessalonians 1:8 says, "So being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own lives ..."